I love the way Marie & Frank’s relationship is. They never lose a day, a minute without picking at each other and yet they are nobody without each other. The beauty of the little tiffs that they have lies in their being together on screen. In fact even when they are not on screen together they do not leave an opportunity to run a joke on the other one. That’s priceless!
I am in love with comedy sitcoms and there are a few I have been watching for like donkey’s ages (Oops! did I in the process mention my age?) Anyway, children today are mostly familiar with F.R.I.E.N.D.S. and no doubt I am a huge fan of the show (don’t touch me there, I am a trivia on that!) but there are also others, which I am as crazy about. One of them being ‘Everybody loves Raymond’- one very amusing story of a guy struggling it out between his past (mother) and his future (wife). I really have a lot on that topic too but this post necessarily is about the protagonist’s parents- Marie & Frank.
They have been married for so long (40 years!) that they have practically forgotten what each one was when they got married and keep cooking up stories about how they would have preferred the other to be. It is in these small little bickering that their togetherness is strong. Marie being the matriarch of the family likes to control everything in her and her son’s home and Frank is the only one in the family who can defy her because he cares a damn! Evidently, this is what it looks like. What I see is, in spite of all this they are still together and so interdependent that neither of them wants to leave for good.
Sometimes in our relationships we tend to forget the warmth that the other person provides in spite of the squabbling that the other demonstrates. This usually forms a cloud of doubt in our equations and we tend to give in to mistrust. It is only when we cross over to the other person and read them like a book that we can feel the comfort of being in each other’s company. This may sound pretty sermonic but the truth is we usually find comfort in the familiar. As we grow we tend to experiment less and practice more. Relationships are complex; we have heard that over, and therefore, it is so important to find your spot, your comfort in a relationship.
Marie & Frank may not be an iconic example of a perfect marriage, but their relationship surpasses that. They don’t behave like a ‘perfect’ married couple. They are just two people moving on in their life and accepting the other person just as they are – with love, in spite of all the nagging and criticism. And yes, that does not stop them from being together because it helps them bond even better. Simply because they are comfortable in being critical of each other and can accept their faults at that! And that only happens if there is an element of Love.
You know what I mean:
Image courtesy : Comedy Central