Relationships are complex things to deal with. There is no one direction you can lead a relationship into. Every single one that you’ve had has a separate calling, a separate dimension and a way to deal with issues and triumphs differently. Since it means a lot of hard labor, often people prefer to escape behind their defenses and impenetrable glass walls.
In today’s social networking and gadget zany world, relationships seem to have got confined in the cyber-sphere where I see so many of us incessantly changing our relationship statuses from single to committed to complicated to going down the drain in utter depression. I see people chatting, flirting, dating and breaking up all online. We seem to have restrained ourselves to the virtual world and then eventually we complain about not being able to reach out to people and landing up alone.
The truth is we all need love. Why else would we have the need to bare our life on the FB status? We need to be accepted, to be a part of the main and so we need to reach out and find it for ourselves. We need to step out of our insecurities and give it a try. And eventually it leaps up to us with affirmation as well.
For a long period of time, relationships have been elusive for me too. There were people who came and stayed and there were people who came and fell out as well- friends, frenemies, colleagues, relatives and lovers. Of course the fact remains that time and circumstances play a lot of role in the way a relationship develops and blossoms, nevertheless, the hope that I am not going to EVER be alone made me keep intensifying my circle of trust.
No man is an Island. Everyone has this deep-rooted desire to make relationships work with rock solid foundations and sky smooching liberation. And so I feel there is just no harm in, for once, stepping out of your ease and making an effort. No one who has ever tried it has had it easy. They tried, reached out to existence and entered the safe haven of togetherness. Now, there’s obviously no point in resenting the ones who did and if you do then it perceptibly means you need it too. So go on! And if it does not work out, well what’s the harm? It’s not like sitting alone on the couch and watching TV is more fun!
I know this all, because I have been on both the sides. Nothing beats being able to reach out to more lives existing in the sphere and making your warmth and presence felt in the real world. And well, today’s Saturday can be a good way to make a start. Never mind if it crashes, at least you tried. ‘No relationship is ever a waste of your time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you don’t want.’
And by the way, Facebook is still waiting next Saturday!
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